Amy’s tips on communicating with confidence

Amy Beth Hayes

We recently started working with Amy Beth Hayes, star of stage and screen. She has been helping many of our clients deliver speeches and presentations with confidence, authority and more than a little success!

Watching Amy work is fascinating. She has broadened our horizons, away from simply delivering well-written scripts and into the impact we make in every day situations. It has been astonishing seeing her transform people’s confidence.  They immediately enter a meeting room with more confidence.  They shake hands at a networking event with more authority.  Or walk to the podium with real poise before they begin speaking. It needs to be seen to be fully appreciated, but we asked her to pen a few words to explain the principles behind her work.

How to be you at the very top of your game

Body Language, Posture, Voice. A tick-box of ways we are judged every second of the day. What we say clearly matters – Lawrence has built his reputation on improving it – but how we say it unlocks that content and affects every decision people make.  We can prepare our content to the finest detail.  But they are likely to invest in us due to deeply ingrained factors.

It’s a scary thought and one that breeds huge insecurities. But the good news is that it can be taught and controlled. And its less about trying to transform you, and more about enhancing what is already there. The dream scenario isn’t to turn you into someone else, but to be yourself – on your very best form!

We all know how a ‘great day’ feels. It means walking to into a room, shoulders back and with confidence. Communicating ideas with ease and eloquence. We can crack a joke, we are relaxed and comfortable in our own skin.  We may feel like this meeting up with some great friends for a drink. Or chatting to people at work who like and respect us.

Us on a bad day? We’re afraid we’ll trip over our words when we’re put on the spot. We may not talk at all in that important board meeting. We might choose to blend into the background while others take the limelight. In essence, that voice in our head that tells us we’re not good enough takes over.

What if there was a way to turn off this voice?

The good news is: You can!

I can work on your body language, posture, eye contact and voice. Show how subtle changes in pitch and register can hook in your listener. Give you practical exercises to suit your particular needs and combat your fears.

Worried you will trip over your words on an important conference call? There’s an exercise that will entirely eliminate the possibility of this happening. Scared that others will sense your nerves in a board meeting? There’s an exercise for that. Hate walking into rooms? You guessed it, there’s an exercise for that too.

Once you have the confidence in your body and your voice, the foundations are in place.  It’s suddenly easier to be creative under pressure. To take risks.  To convince others to believe in you. Its that simple.

The Spoken Word

Got a speech coming up? A power point presentation? Or do you simply have to wine and dine a client to convince them to invest in you? Ask yourself this:

What really makes something or somebody interesting?

It’s their passion.
When we describe something we are passionate about, we naturally alter our pitch and tone and our emotional register shifts. Even our volume changes. This is why passionate people are interesting to listen to and why people who talk in a monotone and who are unconnected to their subject matter are not. Its about changing the vocal landscape.

Changing the vocal landscape:

Try it. Say this out loud :

“I really believe this could work.”

Now say it again by emphasising ‘really’ and ‘believe’:

“I really believe this could work.”

Say it another time, this time allowing the slightest pause after ‘believe’ :

“I really believe …
… this could work.”

See the difference? It sounded like you meant it and that you were excited by the idea and the potential of that idea.

In this way it is possible to make any subject matter interesting, to make people listen to you, to have what they call:

‘Charisma’.

Charisma is essentially a connection between you and what you’re saying. Its means being connected. It is when we are nervous and fearful, when we don’t change the vocal landscape, that we stand to loose that connection.

Don’t throw away all your hard work by allowing nerves, a lack of confidence or a fear of taking the spotlight to get in the way. You are great at your job. Let the world know that. By writing great content and then presenting it as yourself on your very best day.

If you’d like to discuss how we can help, please call Seb for a chat on +44 (0)207 118 1600.